Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic is my writing bible and I re-read it regularly. In it, she references one of my favourite mindfulness books, Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck (you can check out some of the others in this post and see a picture of Buster the boxer with the book here). I shared the best lessons from his book below!
Lessons from mark manson
Writing is hard, but so is everything worthwhile. Stick with it
- “Finding your true purpose is really deciding which flavour of shit sandwich you are willing to put up with.”
- “I thought I wanted something, but it turns out I didn’t. End of story. I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory.”
- “You and everyone you know are going to be dead soon. And in the short amount of time between here and there, you have a limited amount of f*cks to give. Very few, in fact. And if you go around giving a f*ck about everything and everyone without conscious thought or choice – well, then you’re going to get f*cked.”
- “Not giving a f*ck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.”
Mental health is critical to self-care. If you live your life judging others and let your monkey brain control you, then you will be stressed and miserable
- “Giving too many f*cks is bad for your mental health. It causes you to become overly attached to the superficial and fake, to dedicate your life to chasing a mirage of happiness and satisfaction. The key to a good life is not giving a f*ck about more; it’s giving a f*ck about less, giving a f*ck about only what is true and immediate and important.”
- “I say don’t find yourself. I say never know who you are. Because that’s what keeps you striving and discovering. And it forces you to remain humble in your judgments and accepting of the differences in others.”
You control how you frame what happens to you. In fact, the only thing you can control is your own reaction
- “The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.”
- “What pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.”
- “Life is essentially an endless series of problems. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of another.”
What is your favourite “self-help” book?
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